Be careful not to get caught in the grip of disruptive emotion. You can’t make good decisions with bad information, and sometimes emotions give you bad information. This is because there are three things that a disruptive emotion doesn’t want: precision, patience, or perspective.
A disruptive emotion doesn’t want precision.
It doesn’t care about the facts or reality of the situation. It isn’t interested in truth or accuracy. It is only looking for reasons to confirm and justify how it feels. In the absence of confirming evidence, disruptive emotion will often work hard to fabricate it. A mismanaged emotion can be an unguided missile.
A disruptive emotion doesn’t want patience.
It reacts quickly and without thinking. It’s impulsive, impetuous, and impatient. It’s in a hurry. It does not want to slow down, it doesn’t want to press pause, it doesn’t want to gain clarity. It doesn’t want to think; it just wants to react. A disruptive emotion can say and do reckless things.
A disruptive emotion doesn’t want perspective.
It has tunnel vision and doesn’t want to see the bigger picture. It doesn’t care about a different viewpoint or another opinion. It has a very limited perspective and does not want to expand its perspective. It fixates on how it feels and is blind to everything else. Even worse, it doesn’t see what it doesn’t see. It is blind to its blind spots.
To escape this trap, recognize the danger and distortions of disruptive emotion and be disciplined in how you respond. The stronger the emotion, the more important it is that you bring patience, precision, and perspective to the situation.